Women deserve to enjoy the erotic power of their bodies as much as
men enjoy their own. Yet it is rare for a woman to assert her right
to sexual pleasure, to stop and ask herself, "Am I enjoying this?"
and "What do I want?" These are questions that we, like many
other women, only started asking ourselves after many years of
sexual experience. . . .We realized that, although sex had sometimes
been great, it had more often been so-so or even frustratingly bad.
From talking to friends and reading books on sex, we know that our
experiences were fairly typical. Either some or all of the the time,
women have sex that is far less pleasurable for them than it is for
their partner. We wondered why it was that, even amidst rising
feminist self-awareness, the fun of sex still eludes many women.
We came to the conclusion that it was because the sexual culture
to which we all subscribe orients itself toward satisfying men, while
women's pleasure is neglected.
Knowing that things could be different, we began to write this book
and
to imagine what sex designed by and for women might be
like. . . . we talked with women who range in age from the early twenties
to late fifties and in socioeconomic status from working to upper-middle
class. They are from many cultural backgrounds. . . and many are
immigrants from other countries. . . These women are heterosexual,
lesbian, and bisexual. Virtually every woman who had had a male partner
said that sex was far more likely to be orgasmic for him than for her.
When so many women experience the same pleasure imbalance, it cannot
be
explained as an isolated, personal problem. Instead, it is a
clearly
a social problem, but one that, once recognized, is within women's
power to do something about. This book initiates that project.
Are We Having Fun Yet? is much more than a sex guide: it is also
a social critique and a call to action. . . . this book shows women
how
to guide sex their own way. It combines our experiences with those
of
other women and with the results of sex surveys and other published
research to examine the current state of sex. . . . We . . . present
a
wholly new framework for sex from the point of view of women's pleasure.
These are great places to check out if you're intrigued by what we have to say.
Babes in Toyland
A Woman's Touch
Good Vibrations
They've got toys and other fun stuff.